My True Story #No40

"...I had lost all respect and trust in him, we were drifting apart, we became different people, enjoyed different things, ...BUT....the wedding was booked, this great big wedding and I didn’t know what to do..." - Anon

"I had been with my partner for 13 years, since I was 18 years of age. To everyone we were the perfect couple. As time went on I just became more and more unhappy, he had lied to me about a number of things in which I had lost all respect and trust in him, we were drifting apart, we became different people, enjoyed different things, BUT the wedding was booked, this great big wedding and I didn’t know what to do!

So, in the hope things might possibly improve I married him. I think it was more because I couldn’t face the hurt and shame it would have caused breaking up with him, people did not know the troubles we had.

Then along came my daughter, the best thing to ever happen...but I was still so unhappy and couldn’t shake it. Eventually after more trust issues, I moved into the spare room, the one day it just clicked and I thought I cannot carry on this way for the rest of my life. I also didn’t want my daughter thinking this was normal.

So, that day I packed a couple of bags and moved back in with my parents. It was one of the toughest decisions I have ever had to make in my life and it hasn’t been easy at times, guilt playing a huge role!

But, even for my ex, he has realised we both were not happy, just with each other out of comfort. He has found a new partner and seems a lot happier! I am enjoying just being able to be free from the pressure of trying to make something work, and most importantly I am HAPPY! So, don’t settle for something if you are unhappy, yes it maybe a bit messy at first, but it will all work out in the end 😊". True story shared anonymously

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