My True Story #No38

"This picture brings back 100 memories. This picture was taken on one of my best friends wedding day. My partner of 7 years had ended our relationship without an explanation 2 weeks prior to this..." - Kia

"This picture brings back 100 memories. This picture was taken on one of my best friends wedding day. My partner of 7 years had ended our relationship without an explanation 2 weeks prior to this.

I was now facing being a single mum and would have to learn how to juggle full time work and being a single mum. My nephew had sadly past away a year before this and I felt like I never really grieved and everything seemed so difficult to deal with.

I felt like all my friends had their lives together, they were either in long term relationships or married with kids. It felt like time was standing still for me and I had no idea which direction to go in. It was like I was drowning every day trying to come up for air but never reaching the top.

I learnt over time that everyone has their own story and just because I was a single mum doesn't mean I wouldn't find anyone and get my happy ending it may just take a little longer to get there.

I've learnt to accept that I'm not perfect and it's OK to feel down and it's OK to cry.

I spent ages thinking I had to be this super mum that had everything together and was ok with being on my own when in fact I don't have it together a lot of the time, my house isn't a show home, I don't look like the glamorous pictures I post on social media all the time and I cry ALOT but it's OK.

I removed people off my socials that made me feel negative about myself in anyway and started to follow people that kept it 100% real. Its changed my mindset completely. I'm happy and so grateful for my supportive friends and family and will continue to have a positive outlook". - Story told by Kia, @kiadouglas

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